People bring a lot of things to work on a daily basis that they probably should just leave at home – ranging from their personal drama to their kids; but there’s one thing that should always be brought to the workplace and that’s your heart.
We always hear about leaders needing to have high EQ and IQ but all too often we forget about LQ.
Yes, LQ – aptly standing for Love Quotient or what I like to call the heart of this article.
We all run out of gas from time to time both literally and figuratively, but that doesn't mean we don't have a little left to give. Just as a car can keep going when it hits E (for empty), so can you.
The challenge lies in what we believe we can provide and of course what we "assume" others expect from us.
Often times we freeze at the thought of giving someone something because it's attached to a dollar amount or price tag. Since we all have money hang ups the size of Godzilla, it's easy to see why we aren't always quick to think of other solutions. Sometimes the answers aren't as complex as we believe and don't require a penny. In fact, a little insight matched with intent maybe all you need.
So how is it that some fail and fall in place while others appear to seemingly get back up and rise to the occasion - finding ultimate success?
The answer is simple - sort of, you see the difference lies in two areas, the first involves their mindset and the second surrounds the actions they take as soon as they experience a setback. It's one part "how" they do it, plus one part "what" they believe which has them moving forward versus standing still. How you respond to your setback will either be the catalyst forward or the cement that hardens you in place.
Some labels are on the inside where they belong, like a piece of clothing - while others are in plain sight with little chance to be missed - like the ingredients on a can. Then there are those that are invisible to the eye but have the greatest impact of all...workplace labels.
No one asks, or wants to be labeled but unfortunately, we are all predisposed to this experience at an early age. For those lucky few who never were labeled anything - I marvel at your ability to live a life free of this experience, and for the millions of others who weren't as lucky - I feel your pain. Being labeled sucks and it can like the stink of skunk that just won't go away.
Labels follow us around like our shadow - sometimes clearly visible while other times completely hidden. Worst of all, they stay with us right through adulthood and yes...right into the workplace.
At some point in your life, you are going to be asked to make a speech, conduct a meeting or make a presentation and as much as you prep and plan - getting in front of a group of people can be a daunting task.
Trust your intuition." These three little words have captivated me for as long as I can recall. I can't remember the exact time I heard this phrase but it surely has stuck around over the years. What began as an initial interest and curiosity has blossomed into a professional passion and skill I am always looking to hone as a coach.
I have spent the past fifteen plus years of my career developing leaders around the world and the past four as a proud "dad" and father so every now and again when I read something that immediately stops me in my tracks professionally and makes think about things personally I always take note.
Whether you work in an open space office environment or sit at a desk enclosed by the timeless (and design-less) grey and beige cubicle walls - one similarity exists...you work along side other people.
Thinking things through can be a great thing of course. But being an over-thinker can result in stagnation, frustration, exhaustion, anxiety and even illness. Ultimately becoming someone who self-sabotages the good things that happen in life.
Have you ever looked at some of the most successful leaders and CEO's around the world and asked yourself just how are these people able to achieve their goals and possess what appears to be from the outside - a sense of calm and ease?
Let's face it, the concept of emotional intelligence has become not just a popular topic in the field of psychological research as it pertains to leadership development and the way in which todays workforce interacts but also a critical component for ones physical and mental wellbeing.
One of the most popular and frequently overused phrases around time management is ‘Work smarter not harder’. The reality is that we all have the same 24 hours in the day and the truth is, it's your relationship to those 24 hours that will dictate the level and list of your daily accomplishments especially in the workplace.
There is no denying the power, prowess and presence that Bruce Lee bestowed upon the millions of fans and followers during his short time on this planet. He was a Hollywood superstar and martial artist extraordinaire. He was also a notable philosopher whose untimely and tragic death brought his life's work to light for world to read, understand and hopefully apply.
Life is not always easy, fair or a walk in the park as someone once noted. The reality is that life is filled with numerous challenges as well as opportunities for growth and possibility. So how can you level the playing field and create more ease, fairness and turn that walk in the park one you will look forward to?
I am often asked about my coaching practice – specifically around how I have managed to build, grow and scale my coaching practice over the past 15 years. Many coaches (including myself) have struggled at one time or another on how to attract new clients, retain existing ones and earn the income they want while figuring out who they are as a coach and who their target audience will be.
How can one determine if an individual has what it takes to be a leader? There are a myriad of diagnostic tests, profiles, evaluations, and assessments that offer insights into leadership ability, or a lack thereof.
It could lead you to engage with someone whose only goal is to start a conflict. When someone baits you into an unwinnable verbal duel, it's probably because it affords them some type of gratification of acting out their argumentative predilections.